“Feelings, Nothing More Than Feelings”

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“Feelings nothing more than feelings”. Those are words I’m sure most of us are familiar with as we sing along with Morris Albert. It is simply a song about feelings of love. What I have come to realize is that feelings lead to many different things and true love is rarely one of them.

As one who has spent much of my life lead by my feelings I have learned a few things.

Feelings are often mistaken as truth. People will base life changing decisions on how they feel at that very moment. One day the marriage is good and a couple feels so in love, another day they are at each other’s throats and feel hatred for one another. “I feel that I don’t love you anymore”, “I have feelings for another person”. “I don’t feel like working here anymore”, “I don’t feel loved by anyone”. “I feel hopeless”. The list of feeling moments is endless. The point is whether they are feelings of euphoria or depression people tend to believe what is in their mind based on how they are feeling at that time. It is a dangerous way to live.

I am not saying don’t feel, what I am saying is that we need to meet feelings with caution and challenge them with truth. God has given us emotions and feelings but we must learn to use them in a way that is not destructive to ourselves or others. The Bible says “be angry and sin not” (Eph. 4:26) this scripture tells me that God is aware that we become angry, but it also tells me that we must challenge those feelings of anger and use self control to keep from doing something foolish with those feelings.

There are negative feelings that we follow into bad situations but we also follow feelings of excitement and euphoria into some questionable situations as well. It is a big mistake to think that because it feels right it is a good decision. We are a society of pleasure seekers, that seeking is often led by feelings.

In the religious circle I have witnessed “hype” movements that had people upbeat and excited about the things of God but when the excitement wears off those same ones back down because they no longer “feel” God. A relationship with Christ should not be based on feelings. He does not move in and out of our lives based on how He feels about us that day. We should not base our relationship with Him on how we feel either. Good feelings can be a blessing but not the driving force in our lives.

My husband has pointed out several times in the past how I was acting on my feelings. Once I could challenge my feelings of anger at him for pointing out my weaknesses (lol) and see the truth in what he was saying, I realized how much of my life had been guided by feelings. I think this will be a life long challenge, but recognizing it has put me in a position to take action.

As I watch others destroy their lives with choices made on a whim based on feelings, I am reminded of two things. First is that we are to have self control and the second is that we do have a choice with what we do when feelings pop up. I am ashamed of some of the choices I have made in the past when confronted with feeling of anger, jealousy, hurt, insecurity, pride etc. I know I have done damage with my words or actions but my goal for the future is to be more careful in how I react to my feelings.

If I truly love others than my response to my feelings would not be so impulsive as I would contemplate the results before wounding another.

By melissasmccormick
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Extending Hope

Extending Hope

“There is a time to weep and a time to laugh, a time to mourn and a time to dance”. Ecc. 3:4

Life has many seasons of which we all must pass. While we are passing through one season, someone else is passing through another. It is easy to forget that while we are on a mountain top, someone else may be in a valley. Rather than look at each other with a critical spirit, we must reach down from our high place and extend a hand to help them out of the abyss.

Whether we are at a pinnacle in life or low in a pit, we can become so absorbed with ourselves and what is going on in our own lives that we fail to recognize where others are at in theirs. It is human nature to be drawn to the upbeat person who always seems to be happy and yet withdraw from the ones who are down. If it is only the upbeat that we care about and desire to be around and we find ourselves avoiding the disheartened than I question if our hearts are truly for the hurting.

We are told in the Word to weep with those who weep as well as to rejoice with those who rejoice (Romans 12:1). It is always easy to rejoice, be happy and celebrate but who wants to truly deal with the brokenhearted? Jesus does, and He asks us to do the same. Jesus Himself wept with Mary and Martha (John 11:35). He met them where they were at and showed compassion. When Lazarus came back to life the mourning ended and undoubtedly a time of great celebration ensued.

No one will deny that the times of weeping and mourning will come but how many recall the times of laughter and dancing that follow. We must give hope and remind one another that “ Weeping may last the night but joy comes in the morning” (Psalm 30:5)
We are all at different places in our journey but we must be aware of the one who’s head is hanging low as well as the one who is forcing a smile for the sake of others. We must stay sensitive to others so that we might recognize that they are in a low place. We must also take the time to pray with them and hold their hand as they walk through that dark place. Finally, we must encourage them never to lose hope.

One day we may be the one reaching up for a hand of hope.

By melissasmccormick